Preparing the Next Generation: The Right Time to Start the Inheritance Conversation

Start the inheritance conversation early. Learn how to prepare your children for financial responsibility and preserve your family’s legacy.

Many families find that discussing the purpose behind wealth is just as important as discussing the assets themselves. Conversations about charitable giving, stewardship, responsibility, and family goals can help prepare future heirs for the responsibilities that accompany inherited wealth.

What are some ways that parents can work to communicate effectively with their children?

• Have a plan before you sit down with your family – It may make it easier to talk to your children about estate planning and their future inheritance if you already have some sort of plan in order.
• Emphasize your family values – Communicate what is important to you and your family beyond money. Explain how your assets represent your family’s beliefs, such as the importance of education, philanthropy, or entrepreneurship.
• Lead by example – Children often mimic their parents’ behaviors. Demonstrate good financial habits, like saving and budgeting, in your life to reinforce your teachings to your children.
• Establish a timeline – Begin discussing financial topics and issues as early as possible to help them build a foundation of financial understanding. You can then increase the complexity of the conversations as the children grow up and acquire a deeper understanding of how finance and money work. You don’t have to disclose exact dollar amounts when they are young. What you are doing is laying the groundwork for future discussions and providing them skills to one day apply when they receive an inheritance.
• Avoid encouraging entitlement – Make an effort not to give your children the impression that they will be getting a large inheritance without having to go out and work for a living. Even though there may be a significant amount of money coming their way, they still have to go out and work for a living and be a productive member of society.

Steps parents can take to begin the teaching process with children and teens

• Begin with the basics of money – When the children are still young, help children understand the effort, discipline, and planning that are often required to build wealth. A financial education is critical, and it is incredibly helpful if started in childhood.i
• Allow them to earn their own money – As a part of the basics of learning about money, give your kids the opportunity to earn their own. Experience is the best tool for learning. Give them a piggy bank and then an allowance for doing chores around the house, like feeding the cat or cleaning their room. With the money they acquire, they can save it and watch it grow. They can get a part-time job and learn to save and manage the money they earn. As they mature, they can take those savings and deposit them in the bank into an account. As their financial knowledge grows, they can learn about investing, diversification, retirement accounts, and long-term wealth building.ii
• Don’t let a teachable moment pass – Day-to-day life is full of teachable moments for children. Use these times to show them how they can apply what they learn to their own lives. Don’t talk down to them, though, or they won’t listen.
• Minor mistakes are ok early on – It is ok if your children make a few minor financial mistakes early on in their growth. That is how they will learn, such as spending all the money they earned or their weekly allowance, so they can no longer purchase something they may want and have to start saving all over again. Lessons learned in small amounts are valuable later in life. Teach your children to recognize mistakes and, instead of just being angry about it, to learn from them.

Steps parents can take to continue the teaching process with young adults

• Teach them more advanced financial skills – Teach them about more advanced financial responsibilities involving budgeting, saving for retirement, how to responsibly use credit, the tax implications of decision-making, and how to recognize financial scams, evaluate financial products, and make informed decisions before committing to major financial transactions.
• Transition to more specified topics – As your children grow up and mature, you can start expanding your discussions to more specific and complex topics.
• Tell them where to find important documents – This may seem repetitive, but it is important. Let your family know where they can locate essential estate planning documents.
• Reestablish the importance of family unity and the emotional toll this could take on family members – Family unity, especially during a difficult time, can help to make the transfer of your assets easier for them. Regularly remind them of how critical it is that they remain a unified front. A death in the family and then family dissent afterwards can be an emotional toll that could even break up relationships, and that is not what the distribution of an inheritance is all about.iii
• Help children understand digital assets – In addition to traditional assets, families should discuss digital property such as online financial accounts, cryptocurrency holdings, cloud storage, social media accounts, digital subscriptions, and password management. Including these assets in an estate plan can help prevent confusion and administrative challenges later.
• Have them sit down with a financial professional – You may consider introducing your children to your own financial professional so they can get an idea of how it is to work with one. If your choice is not right for them, at least they were able to recognize that, and you can then help them seek out their own based on their own needs and financial goals.iv

Steps parents can take to communicate as a family

• Be transparent – Honestly, explain your intentions regarding asset distribution and explain any unequal divisions to prevent family conflict. You can also share basic information about your financial professionals and the location of critical documents such as wills and trusts.
• Have family meetings – Take the time to have sit-downs with the family, all together, and discuss the family finances and your future plans, and be open to listening to their future plans, as well. Be sure to touch on all the different aspects of creating an estate plan and distributing an inheritance. Set a clear agenda that includes goals, hopes, and wishes for how your money is managed, charitable intent, and an overall financial education for your children.
• Figure out roles and responsibilities – Clearly define the roles of any family members who will serve as executor, trustee, or power of attorney. Ensure they are comfortable with these duties. Where appropriate, consider communicating aspects of your estate plan and the reasoning behind major decisions regarding the distribution of assets.

Consider scheduling a meeting with your financial professional

It is no secret that talking to children about inheritance is a challenging subject for many parents. For some parents, this aspect of estate planning represents their time on earth being over, and this scares them. Other parents have different reasons for not wanting to let their children know how much money they will potentially get. These reasons are personal and vary, from the children not being good at money management to not wanting to destroy their motivation to be successful in their own right. Whatever the reason might be, a financial professional may be able to help you create a strategy to open the lines of communication so that your estate can be transferred more efficiently and in accordance with your wishes while minimizing avoidable costs, delays, and family misunderstandings. The sooner you start educating your children, the more beneficial it may be in the preservation and eventual cost-effective distribution of your inheritance to them.

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_{i Passing on wealth | Fidelity Investments
ii How to Talk to Your Kids About Money | American Bankers Association
iii Six Ways to Make Talking With Family About Estate Planning Easier | Kiplinger
iv Teach Your Kids to Preserve Family Wealth, Not Squander It - Barron's}